What a Sexologist is not

What a Sexologist is not

A new client came for a consultation recently. His distress was centered around compulsive enactments of themes of sexual dominance and submission where the female is fearful and vulnerable and he assumes the power in the play. While he didn’t report any family-of-origin traumas, he reported that he’d always had “a touch” of autism as a child. He felt disconnected to his peers and especially shut out from the mystifying world of girls.

10.What I am. I am a specialist in the area of sexual questions or concerns. I am a board-certified sexologist by the American College of Sexologists. I am also a certified hypnotherapist, as well as life coach. I employ a combination of counselling, coaching and sex therapy methods and techniques, sometimes including them all, depending on the concern(s) the client(s) come in with.

When we read or watch pornographic materials, it often cultivates adulterous desires, and that may eventually lead us to perform adulterous acts. Thus, to prevent ourselves from realizing our wrong desires and thoughts, we are to focus on only good thoughts in the first place: "whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things." (Philippians 4:8, WEB)

And if you're married? You don't want the love of your life to think of you as the "minute man". Think about how much women talk. And they DO TALK. They're not much different than us guys, except they seem to yap way more than us guys do.

An average man may not last for over an hour of selfless foreplay; however he should dedicate plenty of time to “get his lover off” until she is good and primed for penetration. It certainly benefits them both, as she is much more lubricated and receptive after being endearingly attended to. Also, her vagina is more “tight”, as the entire genital area (inside and out) is completely engorged with blood and feels extremely sensitive. And after experiencing numerous orgasms during foreplay, she is more likely to have a vaginal orgasm during intercourse – one of the most pleasurable sensations for both partners. When she enjoys sex and begs for more, then he feels more fulfilled, secure and masculine – a win-win for both!

Another variation of the trivia may be focused on the girls. Questions may include their own first dates, first kiss, memorable events, favorite corset, and so on.